F5: integrating objections

Consent is only consent if one can object! Mastering consent therefore means mastering the integration of objections!


Skill descriptionability to integrate objections gracefully, effectively and holding everyone’s needs with care
How to acquire skillself-study; workshop; practice in real life; MVOS chapter 3.5
Show skillfacilitating 2 consent processes with an objection.
MeasurementPeer group (ALC) assesses based on checklist below.

  • Meetings held within Peer group (ALC): evaluate in circle (meeting evaluation).
  • Meetings held outside of Peer group (ALC): ask for written feedback based on checklist from two people in that circle and present to Peer group (ALC).
  • Was consent reached? 
  • What was the original proposal? What was the objection? What was the final proposal reaching consent? 
  • Did the facilitator ensure that the objection was well understood?
  • Did the facilitator effectively guide the circle in resolving the objection?
  • Did the facilitator treat the objection with curiosity and respect? 
  • Did the facilitator make sure other people’s input/reactions could be heard?
  • Was there a clear distinction between preference and range of tolerance?
  • Did the facilitator have clarity in (helping) revising the proposal? 
  • Which strategies were used?
    • Modify proposal
    • Shorten term
    • Measure the concern
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