Consent is only consent if one can object! Mastering consent therefore means mastering the integration of objections!
||ability to integrate objections gracefully, effectively and holding everyone’s needs with care
|How to acquire skill
||self-study; workshop; practice in real life; MVOS chapter 3.5
||facilitating 2 consent processes with an objection.
||Peer group (ALC) assesses based on checklist below.
- Meetings held within Peer group (ALC): evaluate in circle (meeting evaluation).
- Meetings held outside of Peer group (ALC): ask for written feedback based on checklist from two people in that circle and present to Peer group (ALC).
- Was consent reached?
- What was the original proposal? What was the objection? What was the final proposal reaching consent?
- Did the facilitator ensure that the objection was well understood?
- Did the facilitator effectively guide the circle in resolving the objection?
- Did the facilitator treat the objection with curiosity and respect?
- Did the facilitator make sure other people’s input/reactions could be heard?
- Was there a clear distinction between preference and range of tolerance?
- Did the facilitator have clarity in (helping) revising the proposal?
- Which strategies were used?
- Modify proposal
- Shorten term
- Measure the concern